The Game

After last time I thought I would be better about writing... but life is so busy! Anyway a quick update, institute guy was really kind of a weirdo. He was kind of a jerk over text and then wanted to hang out when he was bored. I was out with a few guys so I couldn't. He has not text me since.

As for the hot tub guy in "Good things come to those who wait?" well he has earned a name. :) We shall call him Flynn, because Flynn is weird and this guy is too. :)

Lately I have been trying to actually play "the game" even though I hate the idea... See Flynn and I have this weird thing going down where he texts me EVERY day, usually in the morning and then we text throughout the day. I am trying not to get caught up in it, because I know it is too early for that. He has been so super honest with me. He also told me yesterday that he wishes he had met me when he was in a better place, but it really made me think... I think he is the first guy ever that hasn't put up a front when I met him. He confuses me, but it is keeping me from being anxious. Through it all I have decided I still hate the game...

Why can't I just be honest and say "I like you" Why does that scare people?
Why do I have to be less available when all I want to do is be available? In a way. I want to get to know him...
I hate having to act like I don't care, like I don't want it, like I am not interested, etc.

I play the game and I am trying to be the best player of this game I can be so I don't get run over... It's hard because I am starting to like Flynn. He's super motivated, smart, hilarious and so interesting I want to know all that I can! It's easy to be around him, but I will continue to play the game and keep my eggs in multiple baskets. ;)

At least I am not the only one trying to navigate this stupid game. Belle is in my same boat with Eric (I think that is what she wanted to call him). I hate how confusing it all is, but things will pan out one day! I'll try to be better about writing...

And the plot thickens...

Sorry it has been awhile since I have written! Thanksgiving was crazy, BUT I have a good story! The Tuesday before Thanksgiving I was sitting in Institute and I saw some interesting information on the board:

Guy's name
(single) (25)
Phone number

It struck me as odd and really curiosity got the best of me... I texted it. I wanted a little spice in my life and I thought it would be fun! I asked for some opinions from friends and they were all over the place, some saying go for it and some telling me he could be psycho or a skeez, because what kind of guy puts his info on the board? My bestie Facebook stalked him and she said she found 2 guys with the same name in the area, neither of whom were unfortunate looking.Well we only texted a couple of times and that was it. I did find out it was due to a lost bet. After that I just forgot about it, then on Monday I got a text asking me where I was from. I didn't totally recognize the number so I asked who it was and it was that guy! We texted for a few hours and then nothing. It stopped at a weird time, but again I decided to stop thinking about it. I was very successful with that... until today.

I went to institute and my teacher says hello to my friend and asks how she is doing. He then turns to me and says "Meg, I've been hearing a lot about you lately." I was shocked and a little confused. he must have been able to tell, because he continued with just "Texting?" I almost died.... he just outed me in front of everyone. So the plot thickens.... He said the guy had been asking him about me and he assured him that I was beautiful and a great person. He also told me HE was the one the guy lost the bet to. It was all over shooting a basketball almost full court or something like that, but even he said the guy was good looking and has a refreshing personality. He then thanked me for texting him. haha Not at all what I was expecting!

I don't know if this guy is going to text me anymore, but it made for an interesting story!

This blog may only be about weird/funny/interesting/shocking stories... Whatever. Entertainment still right?

Good things come to those who wait... Right?

Dearest readers! I feel I must share a good experience with you! Tonight after a long day at work I wanted to go hot tubbing (I live in a complex with one so every once in awhile I feel I should take advantage of such an amenity), but I couldn't think of anyone to ask to come along. Being alone with Frollo sounded like a dangerous situation even though I knew he would be game. I decided to put my knowledge of modern technology to use and post a short open invite on my ward (church group) Facebook page. I almost immediately got a response from a guy who I had met previously at a party, but had not talked to a ton since then. So he and I went, then another guy showed up and then Frollo. I wasn't thrilled about the last one, but I have to admit I felt awesome with those odds! ha ha
Anyway so guy who responded to my posting and I had a long chat among other small chats with other members in the group. He was fun to talk to, he is cute and I really enjoyed getting to know him! I was trying not to let my head run away too much. I thought about adding him on Facebook, but decided with this new idea of learning to play the games I would just not go there and leave it to him. I am proud to say it worked! I just received a friend request from him. So as not to seem too eager, I think I will wait until morning to respond to it.... that's how this game is played right? Available, but not too available... besides for ONCE I would like to see if I can do this friends first thing people speak of... for longer than a few weeks. ;)

She learned that sometimes waiting actually does pay off...

Introductions anyone?

There was a girl...

I am Meg, or well I've decided to be Meg, because I just think she is awesome and I can relate to her. I am 25, single, super independent and live in a strong LDS cultured area. I am no stranger to the reminders about how I am not getting any younger and encouraging "don't give up" comments when I tell people I am single and am not currently attached to anyone. I have learned to just giggle to myself about it now and think how odd we must be to people in other parts of the world... like Switzerland. Obviously I am on the search for my prince charming, but I think he might be lost at the moment. haha

 I like to think I am a pretty regular girl, but have recently been described as quirky on more than one occasion. It may or may not be because I tend to have weird habits and strange desires such as making my car smell like an attractive man... always. I stalk the car parts store to get my favorite air freshener trees, because it is the only place I can find them. Have you ever smelled the "passion" air freshener trees?! So good! Yes, I know that is weird. No, it's quirky! On another note... I have an addiction to Nachos (my roommate can attest to this), music (favorite as of late is the band He Is We) and homemade chocolate chip cookies (let's be honest, who doesn't love them). I love to work out and get in touch with my inner child... sometimes my inner adult. Depends on the day. I am strong in my faith so there will be pieces of that in my posts, but not an overwhelming amount. I tend to over analyze practically everything in dating and I also seem to jump on it when a guy I like shows interest. It is really messed up and I realize it is a problem therefore I'm trying to self help... publicly. Weird. You'll learn more about me as my posts go on this was just my off-the-top-of-my-head intro. Better than most guys get on dates!

ANYWAY.... my roommate has claimed the character Belle. I feel like she fits it well enough and she is helping me with this blog a bit so I am going to intro her today as well. We've been friends for a really long time! We understand each other's weird humor. So a little about my roommie: She is also 25, single and independent. She likes to read... a lot. Like Belle. She is super nice and puts up with my random shananigans. She also loves the air fresheners in my car and has asked me if she will always think of my car when she encounters a good smelling man in real life. It's hard to say, but quite possible! She is a proud introvert (as in not ashamed of her introvertedness, not like a social recluse that thinks she is too good for anyone. Sorry. Felt I should clarify) and I think she will give another great perspective on this little blogging experiment. She is very observant and knows LOTS of cool things... and really random things. REALLY random things. She will be joining in on a lot of these posts mainly because, well... she lives with me and that limits her choice in the matter. ;)

And of course I mentioned a couple of guys in the last post and feel that perhaps I should give them each small intros because at least one of them will pop up in the future I am sure. Where to start though... hmmm. How bout with Mr. Player whom will be known as Pan from here on out because if you go back and watch Peter Pan you will realize what a player he really is! :) This guy dated me ish for all of two weeks kissed me and then again and again and then a few days later in a little chat told me he just "wasn't feeling it." Coulda fooled me! I guess kissing more than once doesn't necessarily mean anything... that's confusing. I always fall for the wrong guys just because they are pretty and fun, but then I see them after flirting with anything girl that moves and I wonder where my brain went! They might be nice guys too, this one was for the most part. He just happens to be a big flirt as well. In the end though I am glad he was up front with me fairly early on so I don't have to waste too much time on someone who doesn't really care. That is something to be grateful for!

The other one was a creeper guy, we'll call him Frollo... (Hunchback. Watch it and you'll understand). Anywho I thought this guy was awkwardly cute until hanging out with him a couple of times and him just attacking me. That was a huge turn off, because it felt to me that he was only in it for physical stuff (Mormon style of course! AKA cuddling hand holding, kissing... the G rated stuff.) I tried to give him another chance and yet again got attacked! He wasn't into the G-rated cuddling and was always pushing for more even when I told him no. At one point I had to literally cover my mouth with my hand to show him I was serious. That also gave me a good out that night. More recently though the fuel to my fire for this blog was that he had texted me about something else and then was trying to get me to come over and cuddle with him all in the name of his "needs." I called him out on his attempt at a bootie call and he didn't even deny it! I was shocked and disgusted. That confirmed what I originally thought about this guy and made me sick. I am not that kind of girl, I do not dress nor act in such a way that would give that impression.

Then I began to wonder if maybe I do... Obviously something I am doing is not working out and then it came to me. These guys barely put in any work at all before I cuddle with them. Kissing me for Pan wasn't that much work either, so as much as I hate it I guess I need to play hard to get... ugh. So that shall be lesson #1- make em work for it!

who learned that the best things in life aren't free and take lots of work...

Oh where to begin?

The whole purpose of this blog is to help those that are in the same boat as I am. How many times have you met and fallen for the wrong guy thinking he would be different? How many times do you watch movies like He’s Just Not That Into You and think during it that you are “the rule,” but when in the thick of things you begin to think you are the "exception”? 

Fairytales tend to teach that everyone is the “exception,” but who decided what is the rule? I've decided to throw my two cents out there for anyone who cares to read it, and create my own version of a fairytale. Hence the name of the blog.

I for one always follow the same pattern: I meet a guy and think he will be different or that things will be different when in reality they are always the same. I figured after the most recent ones, the player and the creeper there was something wrong. Something I am doing needs to change, but I couldn’t think of what. In chats with each of my parents and my older sister. Each one told me I need to learn to play the games. I am going to be completely honest with you, I HATE dating games and every part of me wants to avoid them at all possible costs. Then I came across this quote (that may or may not be legit):

 and decided maybe my dad’s advice wasn’t completely off, that games are inevitable so I might as well be the best player out there! So that’s when the blog came to mind. I am going to start trying to play the games and document how well they work out. Really it is going to be based on the dating advice I hear or books I read, movies I watch, friends experiences and just plain trying not to get too caught up too soon. I want to see if it works and by documenting it maybe I can help someone else in the future. For the sake of privacy and so this can be a public blog, no one will go by their real names, but will all be given a fairytale alias. This should keep things pretty interesting no?

So let's start at the beginning.

Once upon a time...